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Rob  Birks's avatar

Maegan,

This piece is so well written. You found the perfect tone - one that mostly holds back, graciously. When a punch or two do land, they serve as love taps, hoping against hope that our part of the church can learn from our past sins.

Stacy and I are so thankful for the time we had with you and Aaron. Time to minister side-by-side, to talk about important things, to find good food and to laugh a lot. If you ever need anything…

I know that God will continue to bless your family - and OTHERS through you.

Be excellent to yourselves and to each other.

-rob

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Brenda Lunden's avatar

Meagan, Thank you for being courageous enough to share this. Right now, Kurtis is on the Carl Vinson, over in the Gulf of Oman. He has signed papers to separate from Navy by the end of June 2026, and his wife just learned that her job with the 988 suicide hotline is being cut. Kurtis is so fearful of living apart from Navy that he says he is considering reenlisting, even though he hates being there now. We have shared your message with Kurtis and Ashleigh and we pray that they both have the courage to trust God to guide and provide.

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Marsha Miller's avatar

Meagan,

You are amazing! So well written. Thank you for showing people what ministry looks like. Sometimes ministry means walking away and healing and our mission can be somewhere else that doesn't cause us to neglect self.

It can be both holy and healthy!! Love you lady!

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Marissa Fenrich's avatar

I'm proud and we're honored we get to have you guys as family. A chosen family to be alongside with. To see you put your family's needs and calling as a family forth to break that stigma and falsehood that it's a forever thing is powerful, encouraging and bold. A lot of people need to hear this, and now it can be found.

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Rob Noland's avatar

I'm so sorry this happened to you! I can relate to this and am disappointed in my church. Great writing.

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Meagan Ruff's avatar

Thank you, Rob! I never love to hear that people can relate to such a terrible feeling, but I also know how that feeling can be a catalyst for change.

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